Lots of people argue that it’s much better to get to know someone in person, but as long as we have the ability to find out as much we can from the comfort of our sofas behind a laptop screen, the majority of us will.
“Pre-qualifying,” as it’s known, is arguably a wise thing to do before making an investment, and is even recommended by some dating coaches.
“It’s how you will find a match who truly makes sense for you - both your relationship needs and wants,” dating expert Lauren House told Bustle.
Checking out potential partners online is a way of saving time, energy and money.
Settle For Love asks singles to do, well, the complete opposite. Founder by high school pals David Wheeler (a 30-year-old single man) and Jacob Thompson (a married software engineer), Wheeler started the site because he was surprised by the content he discovered with online dating. We couldn't believe people would just lie and be so fake. [Traditional dating sites are] all about people selling themselves.” Wheeler’s concern is capital 'R' real.
Ask anyone who's tried online dating; we’ve all been baited-and-switched. We want to woo potential suitors, but when it comes to dealbreakers, traditional dating profiles give us enough information to handily obscure the big ones, including everything from what the person actually looks like and if they have or want kids, to smoking and drinking habits, (not-so-gainful) employment, an obnoxious laugh, and their pet situation.
Kelly: Could you recommend anywhere nice to eat around here?
The cake looked delicious and I loved your shirt.” And another issue is that online stalking can make you think you’ve found The One, but then when you meet up it’s somehow anticlimactic and the spark just isn’t there.
What’s more, if you’re going to stalk the hell out of someone, you have to be prepared for the same to be done to you, which most of us wouldn’t want.
Not to mention the skills we’re developing will surely be useful in later life.
Settle For Love is the rare dating site actually—dare we say it—doing something different. It isn't striving to be the next Ok Cupid or e Harmony—it especially doesn’t want to be the next Tinder.