How wonderful it felt to have an "adult" who valued our opinion; thought we were not just cute but interesting. I was wearing a Bundeswehr tank top I'd gotten at an Army supply store and faded jeans, a thrift shop crucifix around my neck. But as we sat there together in the sunshine, the wine buzzing my head, I suddenly felt … All I had was my instinct and discomfort — a bad gut feeling. When I write novels, there is always a clear trajectory: the beginning, middle, climax, and end.My best friend was 14 when she fell in love with a 21 year old. My friend's older boyfriend was close with a guy I'll call T. My mother, spying him from the front window, asked me how old he was."I don't know," I said. After awhile, my friend and her boyfriend disappeared, leaving T. With real life, however, and memory especially, it is harder to keep things so neat and organized. In the first, I snuck out of the house with a guy friend who lived down the street. My friend came back, we went home and I slid back into my bed. The second incident I remember happened when he was giving me a ride home.Are you always up for something fun and spontaneous?Do you like to feel the occasional rush of adrenaline and stimulation?Since an older man may have a broader perspective on life simply because he is more experienced, you can ask him questions that a younger man might find threatening.For instance, you can ask him about career growth or money management because he is likely to be very supportive, offering you advice from his experience, referring you to professional colleagues, or simply pointing out where you can find your best answers.If you're dating - or thinking about dating - an older man, you may be concerned about keeping his interest.
When they weren't doing BMX and skateboard tricks in front of the post office, they were spending what money they had at the nearby arcade, or spinning on stools and shooting straw wrappers in their favorite burger joint, just across the street. I grew to dread the moments we were alone, especially when I needed a ride home at the end of the night to make my curfew.In fact, you may find that dating an older man is actually easier than dating a man your age who is less mature than you.According to an article in Ask Men, women who date older men often do so for a variety of reasons. Because of this, I was drawn to people like my best friend, who was dynamic and bold.She was the one who things happened to, the starting point of every story. He, in turn, went to find my friend and her boyfriend, who were none too pleased at having to leave so soon after we got there.You may need to start skipping the traditional Thursday through Sunday bar scene with the girls to appease his lifestyle.While this may seem like a much-needed break, there is potential for you to end up at a home-dinner party socializing with a group that may tell you about their son or daughter that is “just about your age.” Awkward. Dating someone 20 to 30 years older than you means you’re probably going to see time take its toll in many ways.Additionally, an older man will probably really enjoy talking things over with you.By asking him about important decisions you're thinking of making, he will not only be able to offer insights, but he will also feel recognized and appreciated.When the allure of dating someone new wears off, it’s important to accept your partner for the person that you met – even if they are 20 years your senior.An older man usually has an established work, social and home life. Older men are often looking for something consistent. You won’t catch yourself with lingering thoughts of other lovers or competition.