I’ll bet my left eye you’ll hear a WHOLE LOT from the men at the church (with the women saying amen), “These girls’ mommas need to teach these babies how to keep their legs closed!” Followed by a significantly more muted, “” So far, I haven’t heard A THING about a scheduled public tar and feathering of the boys, full grown males, or potential candidates for AARP who are EXACTLY 50% responsible for the teenie-weenie baby boom in Memphis too.The problem with our collective silence and our inability to affirm the worth of the Black woman is that we truly expect her to affirm us whenever we’re disrespected.James Jackson stared down at his white jumpsuit as prosecutors told a Manhattan Criminal Court Judge on Thursday that he had traveled to New York City from Maryland and fatally stabbed a black man because he hated the idea of black men dating white women.And when they start going in, many of us naturally respond by either stating, “Not all Black men…” or by asking, “Why do y’all Black women believe that Black men hate y’all?”But privately, we know damn well that he’s not joking and he’s actually uttering an ideology that far too many of us have participated in at some point in our lives.I would, however, like to flag the fact that Black women were excluded from this piece.
Yet what may be even worse than the gaggle of troglodytes who collectively co-sign these ignorant ass statements, are the brothers who simply just remain silent.
Lil Wayne, the gremlin who got away, is just one of a string of rappers who openly and proudly lace their lyrics with melodic insults against dark-skinned black women while uplifting his beloved “red bones.” And let’s not forget about this little exposÃ©: to reference black women intermixed for the rapper’s rhyming convenience: –bitch (by far the rapper’s favorit-est reference to ALL black women except his momma) –hoe –gold digger –dark butt –red bone (yes, this too is insulting) –hooker –slut I know there’s more, it’s just that I’ve stopped listening to the stuff and I know they’ve gotten A LOT more creative, but I’m just not up to speed on all the new lingo aimed at degrading me and my daughters.
Anyone have some updated slights, or should I check in the Urban Dictionary under, “rapper’s synonyms for black women”? Regarding the teen pregnancy outrage, Maurice, a very respectful black man and one of my FB friends said this: I don’t think the problem is misogyny rather our society and law dictates this. The average man doesn’t hate women, if so he wouldn’t want her at all.
The reason why so many Black women believe Black men hate them is because too many of us spew While interracial dating can still turn heads and draw side-eyes from all races, truth be told, most Black women aren’t overly concerned with which races of women that Black men choose to fetishize.
But the reason it appears that far too many Black men are “jealous” (in those brothers’ words) of non-Black women is due to the fact that it’s incredibly difficult for many Black men to propagate their preferences without slandering all Black women.