She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em?
It's the gap in intelligence —not gender — that causes the intimidation."Do strong career minded women intimidate guys? It probably has more to do with these women having chosen to spend their time and effort trying to accomplish other goals instead of pursuing and working on relationships." "Honestly, when it comes down to it, all men have a little bit of intimidation in them, simply because of the historical dominance of males in society.
Men inherit milllennia years of social and hierarchical dominance and either knowingly or unknowingly have an irrational fear of losing their territory." As a younger single man, I was intimidated by the women I was attracted to; the more sexually attracted I was, the more intimidated I felt.
Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.She likes to laugh, be paid attention to, and made to feel special just like any other woman.The looks are only skin deep and most guys don't realize that. She's competed in 11 marathons, runs her own consulting firm and is working on her Ph. "You would think these are qualities men would like — and most [men] say they do—but sooner or later, I feel like they begin feeling inferior or inadequate as a man or breadwinner." Christine isn't alone in her frustration. Christine recalls, "I recently had a male friend tell me, ' Chris, men just want a woman who's going to be home and be a great wife and mother. Look at you, you're going 100 mph all the time, no guy wants that.'""I am attractive, in gosh-darn good shape, fun, great sense of humor, full of energy and life, smart and ambitious," says Christine. They remind these people of the existential crisis that cause their current state of being. According to the book Strong, aggressive, ambitious people intimidate weak, passive, lackadaisical people regardless of sex.I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.Nerd Love Facebook Page, trying to get a handle on what guys mean. So let’s take a look at what men say is intimidating… Men can find beauty intimidating; the more attractive the woman, the more advantages society gives her.Everything went smoothly—until they met in person for a cup of coffee.They had many things in common and talked for about 45 minutes.