You chronicled your tumultuous separation that eventually mellowed into a strange period wherein you hung out quite a bit in some kind of confused limbo. You learn he’s talking to other women, you talk to other men.
You wrote about your confusion: are we doing the right thing by divorcing? But we’re so toxic together and sometimes love just ain’t enough. You learn he’s seeing other women, you see other men.
Emotions are likely to be running too high and wounds might still be fresh.
I remarried once for a brief and unfortunate time and I've had a few long, failed relationships. We are both single now and remain very good friends.
Is it ever appropriate to get back together with an ex-spouse? “I can see all different kinds of circumstances why you might end up dating someone you’ve broken up with,” says Jessica Bollinger, a therapist in Lexington, Kentucky. If we want to try this, we can’t just have these little rendezvous.’ I guess I’d have to ask myself this. Why am I allowing myself to remain emotionally stuck, instead allowing myself to stay here?
“I think what you can bring into dating your next spouse is a new beginning, taking in and bringing in new learning that you have about relationships, because we’re different people every day, and we’re changing and growing every day. ” “If they’ve done it all, they need to say, ‘This won’t work. ” “A couple gets a divorce and has their reasons for doing that, and after the divorce can decide for any number of reasons that they want to get back together again,” says Kevin Rhinehart, a social worker and marriage therapist in Boise, Idaho.
You maintain positive communications, for the most part, and congratulate yourself on a divorce well done.
But even while you’re congratulating yourself, you’re second-guessing yourself. It makes you feel scared and floppy within the world.