We stood in the warm Southern California night under suburban streetlights: Myself and a bespectacled entertainment writer/director with a boyish face, whom I met on Tinder.
Dinner had started off strong, with talk of sci-fi over salads, but quickly unraveled around issues of life goals and values.
Here’s the lowdown on commitment phobia and relationship anxiety.
People who have commitment issues, commitment phobia or relationship anxiety (I’ll use these terms interchangeably) generally have a serious problem in staying in a relationship for the long-term.
Commitment can be a very scary thing for many young people, myself included.
I am now at a stage in my life where I can be very committed, but I wasn’t this way just a year or two ago. I was a commitment-phobe who dated a lot of women with no intention of ever settling down.
But our understanding of how the fear of commitment for some people can be paralyzing has increased.
I started to wonder: Is there really a commitment problem among people my age?However, if you’re a woman not looking for something too serious, dating a guy with commitment issues can be exciting, as they tend to be fun and spontaneous.Of course, women can have commitment issues, as well; I'm just speaking from my own personal experiences and a man's point of view.In relationships they create great confusion, havoc, pain, and anguish as their behaviors are often insensitive, unpredictable and bizarre.These types of men can make women who are saints turn into mad women, as they play games with their minds and their hearts.Commitment-phobic men are tortured souls full of fear.They are in a constant state of emotional conflict because of their negative irrational beliefs about love, commitment and relationships.For most people, relationships are fairly easy things.They come as naturally to life as breathing or making a meal. In fact, they present such a challenge to the individual, that a person can be said to have relationship anxiety, a fear of relationships, or suffer from “.”Commitment issues in relationships are nothing new.You can ask any woman who's dated a guy with commitment issues; it can be a roller coaster, and that can be good or bad thing, depending on if you enjoy roller coasters.A woman who is dating a guy with commitment issues is often left confused, wondering where she stands with him.