First, she defines “queer” in terms of her “devout lesbianism” and “steering clear of cisgender men.” Given her definition, a bisexual woman (such as me), who sometimes does have sex with cis men, must automatically be *not* queer—aka, straight.I kept looking for an easy solution, but there wasn't one. There just wasn't an easy way to be a part of the community.Finally, 13 years ago, I realized that if anyone was going to build the place I dreamed of, it would have to be me. When I started working on Pink Sofa, I consulted with lesbians all over the world to find out what they valued in a community. Are the new representations of butches ghostly after-images of a recent past that has come and gone and taken its place within a pantheon of gay and lesbian histories relegated to the past by the recent triumphalism of the gay marriage era? I am going with bale of butches) in , we would seem to have a bale of butches in popular culture right at the very moment that the category has supposedly gone out of style.And the first question often leads to others: Why are all the butches becoming men?Why can’t they understand that gender is a social construct, and that women don’t have to conform to a feminine ideal?While as recently as a decade ago, many butches could still be found in their natural habitats–dyke bars and softball teams–and while some could even be spotted in the wild, in recent years, their numbers have declined leading some scientists to predict their eventual disappearance. It was less than a decade ago at Wimbledon that French tennis player Amelie Mauresmo was accused by Lindsay Davenport of “playing like a guy” and then described by Martina Hingis of being “half a man.” Now Mauresmo is the super effective coach for a male top ten player–Andy Murray.Indeed, like the passenger pigeon or Lonesome George, the last known Pinta Island tortoise that died in 2012, the butch seemed like a category whose time had passed–a relic, a fossil, a victim of cultural climate change and an irredeemable symbol of past times that a new generation was eager to forget. And, only six years ago, South African runner, Caster Semenya was subjected to a clearly racist “gender test” when her unapologetically athletic appearance led to suspicions about her masculinity, drug use and so on.most posts will focus on gender & sexuality; trans, queer & feminist politics; music & performance; and other stuff that interests or concerns me.find out more about my various creative endeavors at I’ve been meaning to post this for a while now, as an explanation and reference for what I’ve been calling FAAB-mentality (described below).