Decide whether it's "for fun" or something more serious.One of the members of my Inner Circle asked me to write about being an older woman involved with a younger man because she's dating someone younger.They first met when he was 15 and she was a 39-year-old teacher at his school.
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.Younger men are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you, says Lori Bizzoco, founder and executive editor of Cupids “He will see you as smarter and worldlier, so he’ll want to please you, not just physically but emotionally and intellectually,” she says.“He’ll come up with creative date ideas that bring back romance and youth, and make you feel empowered and appreciated.”When you enter into a new relationship, it’s no secret you’re bringing former boyfriends along with you. “Men can have preconceived notions about women and relationships based on past experiences,” says Samantha Daniels, a professional matchmaker and president of Samantha's Table Matchmaking.Then there was Ashton Kutcher who stepped out with a 23-year-old, leading Demi Moore into a whippet-induced 911 scandal. “In the hundreds of cases I've researched, the couples I know and with whom I've worked, there is love and fidelity,” she says.Besides, these younger men usually have little reason to stray.Ever since Anne Bancroft and Dustin Hoffman made it cool in the 1967 film The Graduate, women have embraced the cougar role.And it’s no secret that Samantha Jones had many (many) younger, hot, male playthings.Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven.“A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things,” says Lindsay Slosberg, dating expert for the app Let’s Date.“In turn, doing new things increases dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire.”An even bigger bedroom bonus?One thing that works in our favor is that I wanted a younger man (although I was thinking more like 48) and he prefers older women (he pursued me and knew how old I was, because he first set eyes on me at my 60th birthday party at the tennis club where he worked as a trainer).It turns out that one-sixth of women in their 50s prefer men in their 40s. I knew I wanted a younger man, but only as a playmate.